Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Lies Young Women Believe Book Review

Book Review:
and the Truth That Sets Them Free

I read Nancy Leigh DeMoss’s book, Lies Women Believe, several years ago for a ladies’ Bible study at a church we used to attend. I was pleasantly surprised to find that she and I agree on so many points concerning biblical womanhood. Her co-author on this project, Dannah Gresh, wrote the popular book on purity, And the Bride Wore White. So, when their book geared toward younger women came out, I knew I had to read it, and I am pleased to say I was not disappointed.

The note to parents and youth leaders included in the very first pages of text is much appreciated:

In the months of focus groups and conversations leading up to the writing of this book, we have grown to love this generation of girls even more deeply. We’ve also become increasingly aware of the depth of the deception and darkness that they face. In order to shine the light into the darkness, we felt it was necessary to be direct and specific about a variety of sensitive topics, including sexual issues, eating disorders, and occult activity.

We’ve tried to be discreet, without mincing words or sidestepping issues we know many young women are facing. If you have any concerns about how these subjects may be handled, please read the book prior to sharing it with your daughters or the girls in your youth groups. You may also want to offer to walk through this book with them.

There are sensitive topics covered in this book, yet these must be addressed just as any good minister would from the pulpit. However, I must agree that mothers should definitely read this book before giving it to their daughters or to any other young women who might benefit from its wisdom.

The book is divided into fifteen chapters with the first three (Part I) covering the “Landscape of Lies: the Deceiver, the Deceived, and the Truth.” Chapters four through twelve (Part II) contain, in nine groups, the twenty-five key lies that young women believe about:
  • God
  • Satan
  • Myself
  • Guys
  • Relationships (including parents)
  • My faith
  • Sin
  • Media
  • The future
In the final three chapters (Part III), Nancy and Dannah explain the biblical model for overcoming lies: How to Stop Fueling the Lies, How to Find Freedom from the Lies, and The Truth That Sets Us Free.

Research for this work involved traveling to ten different cities in the U.S. and administering what they term their “Blazing Lies” test. Of the over 1,000 participants, about 100 of them also took part in a two-hour focus group where they were able to speak with the girls face to face about the lies young women believe. Others took short surveys to confirm what they found in that discussion. The twenty-five lies they uncovered are expounded upon within the main section of the book.

I appreciated the fact that these ladies maintain the authority in the home and address the very real problem of putting youth leaders on a pedestal. Another issue they discuss, which is seldom considered when dealing with young people, is that of virtual relationships, online communities, and the danger of becoming obsessed with electronic media – very good. I was also pleasantly surprised to find that these authors confirm what I was trying to say in my blog posts regarding Hormonal Delinquency in Teenage Daughters. On page 144, the authors respond under the lie, “I can’t control myself when I’m PMS-ing”:

~ What happens in our bodies is real, but physical symptoms can never be an excuse for sin. James 4:17; 2 Corinthians 12:9-10

~ By God’s grace you can bring your emotions, thoughts, and words captive to Jesus Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5b

~ God examines every word we speak and every thought that we think. Psalms 139:23; 94:11; Matthew 9:4

The format is similar to a magazine layout with special features in the margins and stand-alone quotes and tidbits. One of the most stunning parts of this book is the poll numbers regarding the different lies young women believe. You may be shocked at what you find here.

I was both shocked and dismayed and found myself crying out to God for the young women of this and succeeding generations. All women of faith should be praying for our young women and striving by God’s grace to make a difference in the lives of those we find within our circle of influence.

These are our future
mothers and grandmothers,
and we want them to finish well
with no regrets
and with minimal scars.

That’s why I believe this book would be an excellent resource for a mother/daughter or older women/younger women’s Bible study. However, it would also be perfect for a one-on-one study between a mother and daughter or an older woman in the church with a younger woman who has no godly influence in her own home.

Therefore, I highly recommend this book with the caution that it should be read by the mother/older woman first in order to discern which portions may not be appropriate for the daughter/young woman or which should be handled more carefully.

There is also a website which includes an open blog for more information and discussion, a “Mom’s Corner,” a discussion guide, and even wallpapers and a downloadable bookmark found at

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472940: Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them FreeLies Young Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free

By Nancy Leigh DeMoss & Dannah Gresh / Moody Publishers

Ever since Eve, women have been swallowing Satan's lies---and so have their daughters. Best-selling authors DeMoss and Gresh team up to expose twisted messages about God, guys, appearance, and other falsehoods our media-driven culture feeds young women. Their insights will equip your 13- to 19-year-olds to liberate themselves from deception and embrace God's truth. 192 pages, softcover from Moody.