Monday, November 11, 2013

Desperately Searching For Fulfillment in Marriage

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Paul Washer is an awesome preacher, a man whom I believe God is using to impact this generation. However, in the shadows is a lovely woman of God, his wife, Charo Washer.

I found a quote by her which resounds with many singles who struggle to find fulfillment in marriage:
“I have found that there are two primary reasons why someone desperately needs someone else. First of all, it is because they do not know God as they should. Is God not the God of all comfort? Is not Christ the exalted Lord who fills all things everywhere? Then why do we complain about how empty and alone we feel? Could it be that God extends our time of singleness so that we might find our life in Him and learn to be complete in Him? If we seek to be married because we feel that a husband will fill our lives or will in some way make us complete, we will be sorely disappointed in our marriage. No man, no matter how Christ-like could ever take the place of God in our lives, to think such a thing is pure idolatry. If we are not filled by God now and complete in Christ in the present, then not even a marriage made in heaven will be able to change our emptiness.” - Charo Washer, wife of Paul Washer (Read more here.)[1]
I wish I had heard these things before I married. I was so stupidly (and often embarrassingly) desperate. :(

Something to ponder carefully. 

[1] "The Godly Woman -- Becoming Esther," first published in HeartCry magazine, Volume 3, January 1998, PDF accessed November 11, 2013, http://s3.amazonaws.com/churchplantmedia-cms/heartcry_missionary_society_radford_va/becomingester_by_charowasher.pdf.