Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Raising Boys By Design - Book Review

Evidence of a good read...
See all those little slips of paper in my copy of Raising Boys by Design? Those are evidence this book really impressed me. All those little bookmarks lead me back to tidbits of information which struck me as important. I will be sharing a of few of them with you in this review just to whet your appetite.

The fact that boys and girls are born differently and grow into men and women who function differently has always been an accepted reality. However, primarily because of the feminist gender-benders of the past fifty years or so, what was once an accepted premise regarding gender development became dangerous thinking. Those who promoted such notions were either whipped into subjection or silenced into the background. Now, science is backing up what the Bible has said all along, that God created us male and female.

The authors of Raising Boys by Design are family counselors Gregory Jantz and Michael Gurian. Though Greg's input is primarily from a biblical perspective and Michael's from a scientific view, their findings merge in a blend of faith and science where neither contradicts the other.

In fact, as they put it, "We realized that the phrase 'design-based parenting' could integrate our common themes. As we developed this book, we found some significant intersections between the Bible and brain science."

I appreciate how Greg and Michael are balanced in their thinking regarding gender differences. Greg quotes 1 Corinthians 11:11, 12, "Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God."

Just as with other creation science studies, as I read the results of the findings of both these authors, I had to stand in worshipful awe of our wonderful and all-wise Creator in not only making us male and female, but also giving both sexes a spectrum of male and female tendencies. This has helped to clarify my beliefs concerning the roles of men and women in the home, in the church, and in society at large. Each has his or her own gifts and abilities to offer, yet only to be exercised within the context of whatever sex he or she was born.

As you read this book you will no doubt, as I did, have many "a-ha" moments as you begin to see what they are saying is true even within your own family. For instance, though both fathers and mothers have the ability to nurture their children, a father will most likely exhibit that nurture much differently than a mother would. The authors' premise is that it is within a boy's best interest that both mothers and fathers nurture them in their unique ways in order for them to mature into the men God intends for them to be.

Truly, this book helped me see how our society -- in the home, the church, the school, and our government -- has failed our boys miserably. Both Greg and Michael offer tips and encouragement to parents, teachers, and organizations how they can give hope to future generations by raising boys according to their God-given design as revealed in the Word and backed up by true science.

Though some may be put off by the fact that Greg is a psychologist and that Michael is a secular scientist, I hope you will give Raising Boys by Design a fair reading and consider what they have to say. I found it to be quite balanced and God glorifying. Also, though the book is written mostly to parents of children who attend public schools, there is so much which would also be helpful in home school situations. In fact, I found it only confirmed how right we were to educate our children at home.

Your comments and questions are most welcome.